I'm Not That Desperate

Married_at_First_Site.jpgAs a single woman and mom, I’ve tried many different things in an attempt to find “the one”. Nothing was off the table. From online dating sites to being “fixed up” by a friend, I’ve tried it all. I understand the risks that come with dating and that first meeting. After all, we never really know what we’re getting until we get to know the other person…right? So why would anyone put themselves in the position of marrying someone they have never met?

A new reality show debuted yesterday (July 15) on the FYI channel (part of the A & E Digital network) called, Married At First Sight. It’s described on the website as a reality show based on a “social experiment”. The premise is simple, a team of four individuals, a sexologist (not sure what that is), a sociologist, a psychologist and a spiritualist, match up couples for compatibility. The couples then meet each other for the first time at the altar where they take their vows. The show then follows the couples for the first several weeks of their marriage and at the end of the series, the couples will choose whether to stay together or separate. 

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Swimming in the Shallow End on Immigration Policy

Immigration policy is such a hot topic nowadays, and I find myself conflicted about what direction our country should go. On one hand, I have seen firsthand the havoc that illegal alien criminals are wreaking on law enforcement and social services in the border states. On the other hand, it’s hard to deny that the American consumer benefits from the low cost labor force living in this country illegally. Furthermore, as a practical matter – I don’t see how it’s possible to deport the millions of illegal immigrants who have already made it across.

Beyond the macro policy issues that federal lawmakers have to tackle, I have felt a distinct and growing unease at how the immigration issue is playing out in my community. I live outside of Washington, D.C.  in Northern Virginia, in a city with an income and education level far above the national average. My city has largely stayed prosperous throughout the recession; home values are up and it isn’t nearly as hard to find a middle class job here as it is throughout most of the rest of the country. According to the Federation for American Immigration Reform (FAIR), over 11% of Virginia’s residents are foreign born, and the illegal alien population has more than doubled in the past ten years. Most of these foreign born folks, both legally and illegally living here, live here in Northern Virginia, which is the most densely populated – and most liberal leaning – area of the state.  They clean house, tend children, landscape lawns, and fry McDonald’s burgers for the area’s fast growing middle class.

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Extremism Starts at Home

Hoa_Meeting.jpgVery often, when we think of extremism, we think of it in broad terms.  For example, we see far right or far left.  In most cases, we don't see it as an individual.  We also tend to see it at higher levels, such as a politician, an entertainer, or a leader in general.  We forget that extremist ideas, do indeed, start with one person.  

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In the Fight for Energy Production, Why is it Nature vs. Need?

Oil_Well.gifAs summer has gotten into full swing, gas prices across the nation have once again crept to the $4/gallon mark.  The last time gas was under $2/gallon in the United Stages was November of 2008.  Since then the price has fluctuated, but the average is consistently around $3.40/gallon.  According to the EIA (Energy Information Administration), at the current rate of consumption the US has enough natural gas for the next 92 years, and recently calculated estimates show 7.4 billion barrels of oil and 6.7 trillion barrels of natural gas in the Dakota/Montana region alone.  These deposits are just beginning to be excavated.  So why are Americans paying so much for gas?

One reason is the constant debate between environmentalism and fossil fuel energy productions. It never ceases to amaze me how if you are pro-drilling you must automatically be anti-environment.  I find this argument ludicrous.  I love nature, I love animals, I have dozens of “earth bags,” and I attempt to recycle whenever possible. However, whenever I say we should be drilling more I invariably hear that drilling is bad for the environment and we need to care for the earth by investing in alternative energies.  Awesome!  I am all for investing in alternative forms of energy. 

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Colbie Caillat Has a Message for Women That May Surprise You

I have a teenage daughter, and have been amazed over the last few years by the pressure she feels to have her makeup and hair just perfect before she exits the house in the mornings. Regardless of how naturally beautiful a girl is, the pressure to be perfect is something that has become more and more prevalent in our society today.

Don't get me wrong, I think makeup is pretty awesome stuff. I've always had the motto that if a barn needs some paint, then by all means, paint it...but I think sometimes the "paint" becomes our identity.

Grammy award-winning, singer-songwriter Colbie Caillat is kinda tired of having that expectation thrust upon her and she's more than a little bit tired of being photoshopped at every turn. After a little inspiration from an unexpected source - a man, she decided to create something for her latest album that would speak to this issue. The video you see below is the result - her new single, Try

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